I hope my kids are great friends with each other when they grow up.
My own brother and I live far away from each other, and don’t talk nearly as often as I would like. Neither of us are big phone talkers, and he doesn’t use email – my primary connection mechanism!!! I have high hopes that together my mom and I can talk him into visiting Lubbock around Christmastime. Prayers that he’ll make a visit are appreciated! He’s just not much of a traveler. When we were little, and had to travel the 15 minutes from our hometown to Tulsa, he would pout and protest like we were driving to California.
Anyway – the point I was trying to make is that right now, my kids think of each other as best friends. I know as they grow they’ll find strong friendships outside of each other, and their closest friendships will be peers who share common interests, but I hope they will keep in mind that they will always have each other. Friends may come and go, but family you’re stuck with. Ha! We’re still navigating how to help them foster strong love and commitment to each other. Any advice from those of you with strong relationships with your siblings is welcome. Do you think anything your parents did or didn’t do played a role?
It warms my heart when I see my kids thinking of each other above themselves, and independently coming up with ways to show love to each other. Granted, they are 7, 6, and 4 – so occasions of self-sacrifice can be few and far between. But when it does happen, it brings a smile to my face for weeks!
At the boys’ school, they earn “Pirate Bucks” as a positive behavior reward system. (Pirates are the school mascot.) Then they have a chance to visit the “Pirate Store” and spend their money on toys or other rewards.
Ryan chose to save up $50 pirate bucks to purchase a “free lunch pass” to sit wherever he wanted at lunch. He passed up buying toys or trinkets for several weeks, diligently saving his bucks. The lunch pass he bought could be used to sit wherever he wanted in the lunch room; he could choose to sit with his teacher, or sit with a friend in a different second grade class, etc.
But Ryan decided to surprise his brother, and use his hard earned pass to sit with Dylan at the Kindergarten table. Dylan was so excited!!! I love it. Just love it. Jonathan and I didn’t even know about Ryan’s plan until it had already be executed.
Of course later that day they nearly came to blows while playing Wii together. But for the purposes of this sappy blog entry, let’s just focus on the positive, shall we?